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Today we went to visit my grandma..she was born the year of the pig..which made her 87 this year..

It made me sad..she's aged lots since the last time I saw her..it was like she didn't recognise me..switching from con to mày to cô ..eventhough I worked with the elderly during the week it is especially hard to deal with..when it happens to be my grandma..

She kept on asking the same question over and over..she said she can't remember when I was born but she remembered that she was there with my mum at my birth..she couldn't remember how old she was..but she remembered she's been in the nursing home for more than a year now..still she thinks she will be going home..

Funny how she remembers here and there yet not really there..we brought her some bánh giò and xôi ..she was going to grab it with her good hand..her left..silly me forgot her eye sight is not very good..she's got cataract yet she won't have surgery..stubborn as hell..so I'd pop some bánh giò on the spoon and pop the spoon into her good hand so she can feed herself..spoon by spoon..

it is sad for all her life she's been stubborn and fiercely independent..in some ways I am glad her memories fails her..that way it won't be so hard on her..made me think what I would be like when I am older..for I have inherited her traits..

when we left I said I would come again..she asked me when..and I was stuck for words..because I don't know when I will be down there again..

Today hubby was planning to go to Richmond for lunch when I told hubby I wanted to go to Springvale for lunch and then go on down to Sandown Park to visit my grandma..don't know if it is too late or not..as it was already nearly 2pm..

he didn't say anything..he just kept to the left..and we took the entrance to the freeway to Springvale rather than the other way to Richmond..

I am glad we went today..glad we made the effort..hubby is fond of my grandma..eventhough half the time he can't understand her as she is người Bắc ..